{"id":57286,"date":"2024-06-24T14:02:55","date_gmt":"2024-06-24T14:02:55","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/chezaspin.com\/blog\/index.php\/2024\/06\/24\/vivian-i-got-trolled-for-taking-a-selfie-with-steve-harvey-2\/"},"modified":"2024-06-24T14:02:55","modified_gmt":"2024-06-24T14:02:55","slug":"vivian-i-got-trolled-for-taking-a-selfie-with-steve-harvey-2","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/chezaspin.com\/blog\/vivian-i-got-trolled-for-taking-a-selfie-with-steve-harvey-2\/","title":{"rendered":"Vivian: I got trolled for taking a selfie with Steve Harvey"},"content":{"rendered":"
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How did it feel to go viral and have Kenyans learn about your relocation after your photo with Steve Harvey?<\/strong><\/p>\n<\/div>\n

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About my selfie with Steve Harvey, I intentionally posted it and I did not expect anything less of what was said. Kenyans can be bullies but I am no longer affected by trolls.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n

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I partially re-located to the United States and I live in Georgia. I am in school, so that is one of the reasons I came here. I am doing a course in psychology. I\u2019m almost completing my studies but I am also ready to explore the opportunities available. It was a different atmosphere, but I felt like I needed this way of life.<\/p>\n

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I had just done a short course in marketing but I had never specialised. When I wanted to go back to school before, my music career had blown up and I didn\u2019t have enough time. I have decided to get out of my comfort zone. The universe has its plans for all of us and I am taking this season as immense growth. I also felt like Kenya was so hostile for me, especially after I went through the separation. I felt like my daughter and I needed the change and see life from a new perspective.<\/p>\n

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Does that mean you have stopped doing music?<\/strong><\/p>\n

Celebrity culture can easily deceive you about what you have achieved in life. They say you have to do the work to achieve things in life.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n

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I have been in Kenya for so long and I have dedicated my life to music, so I felt I wanted to do something different. Something that I want. It was not easy, but I took the risk and the opportunity. I like the fact that I can walk anywhere and just be Wambui. The organisation here and the facilities are perfect! I moved alone, but there are plans to bring my daughter with me by the end of the year.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n

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I will still produce good music here. One day at a time; without a lot of pressure. I don’t want to limit myself to one area and that is why I want to try other avenues like writing and, soon, I am starting a Podcast.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n

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One of the signs that I needed a change, was that I was struggling to get well-paying gigs.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n

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How was it going through a separation in the public and how did you navigate?<\/strong><\/div>\n<\/div>\n
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As human beings, we need to expand beyond social media. I was harshly judged and I did not get any help from the public. I had to figure it out by myself. My ex is a speaker and he preaches the Bible a lot.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n

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I joined bible school to gain clarity for myself but ended up battling control issues there because they wanted me as a separated woman to dedicate all my time to the church community.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n

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I was unwilling to do that and had to leave that group too. I had already decided to focus on my life and daughter.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n

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We need to be real with ourselves and learn to spread our network. I had to shut my ears to many people, groups who felt they knew me better; including some family members.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n

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I always say everyone should be able to bet on themselves. I took the plunge and thinned down my focus on my daughter and me. She has a sharp mind and is a great reader, and we are going to prosper.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n

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What advice do you have for people going through breakups, and what lessons have you learned from your own experiences?<\/strong><\/p>\n<\/div>\n

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Women endure the most, especially when marriages don’t work. Even if I were to look back at the reason for my separation, no matter how I said it, it was still going to be about me being the bad person.<\/div>\n<\/div>\n
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At first, when I said I was single, it was not supposed to look like a war between my ex (Sam West) and I. But I quickly realised he was at war with me. The reason things did not work between us was his expectations of me, especially because we both had children from previous relationships.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n

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There were things I could not do for his child but he expected me to do. I internalised so many things that I shouldn’t have and that took a toll on me. Those were some of the things that caused my relationship to end, because I only wanted to be a secondary parent. I advise anyone in my shoes to always choose yourself.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n

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What advice would you give to individuals looking to start a new life in the United States?<\/strong><\/p>\n<\/div>\n

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America has its own set of challenges, with many Kenyans doing well. I recently had a huge performance in Dallas at an African event called Waka Waka.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n

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I know many Kenyans at home would like to travel and explore. It\u2019s a journey of resilience and patience. We must try our best to be informed to avoid shortcuts that leave people in the diaspora trapped. The main struggle I hear is getting paperwork. I would encourage people to follow the genuine avenues when trying.<\/div>\n<\/div>\n
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Hopefully, the recent trip by our government to America will create better options for media and creatives and any other hardworking Kenyan. We must remain hopeful and positive.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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